After too many years of unfulfilling work, Bronnie Ware began searching for a job with heart Despite having no formal qualifications or experience, she found herself in palliative care Over the years she spent tending to the needs of those who were dying, Bronnie s life was transformed Later, she wrote an Internet blog about the most common regrets expressed to her by the people she had cared for The article, also called The Top Five Regrets of the Dying, gained so much momentum that it was read by than three million people around the globe in its first year At the requests of many, Bronnie now shares her own personal story Bronnie has had a colourful and diverse past, but by applying the lessons of those nearing their death to her own life, she developed an understanding that it is possible for people, if they make the right choices, to die with peace of mind In this book, she expresses in a heartfelt retelling how significant these regrets are and how we can positively address these issues while we still have the time The Top Five Regrets of the Dying gives hope for a better world It is a story told through sharing her inspiring and honest journey, which will leave you feeling kinder towards yourself and others, and determined to live the life you are truly here to live This delightful memoir is a courageous, life changing book


10 thoughts on “The Top Five Regrets of the Dying: A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing

  1. Deirdre Deirdre says:

    I bought this book due to the positive publicity which the writer received on her article the top five regrets of the dying I expected some open and honest accounts from people who faced death and encountered their regrets about the life they had led and their fears about the future What I didn t expect to find was a long diatribe about the author, her belief systems and what led to her writing the book in the first place A paragraph should have been sufficient Sadly it was so interminably d I bought this book due to the positive publicity which the writer received on her article the top five regrets of the dying I expected some open and honest accounts from people who faced death and encountered their regrets about the life they had led and their fears about the future What I didn t expect to find was a long diatribe about the author, her belief systems and what led to her writing the book in the first place A paragraph should have been sufficient Sadly it was so interminably dull that I couldn t wade through the author s biography to get to the parts about the dying which was the point of buying the book in the first place For anyone with an interest in this subject I would recommend What Dying People Want by David Kuhl which is a worthwhile and professionally written work Sadly struggling to read this drivel by Bronnie Ware counts as one of my top regrets of the living


  2. Carolyn Carolyn says:

    When I m dying, one of my top five regrets may well be having read this book It was like reading a dull person s diary, complete with the bad spelling and grammar you d expect from such an offering.This book contained mainly self indulgent drivel, briefly punctuated by five points of wisdom gleaned from the writer s dying clients while she worked as a palliative carer Instead of an enriching insight into their experiences and what we could learn from them to use our own remaining timeeff When I m dying, one of my top five regrets may well be having read this book It was like reading a dull person s diary, complete with the bad spelling and grammar you d expect from such an offering.This book contained mainly self indulgent drivel, briefly punctuated by five points of wisdom gleaned from the writer s dying clients while she worked as a palliative carer Instead of an enriching insight into their experiences and what we could learn from them to use our own remaining timeeffectively, the writer consistently went off on tangents about her wannabe music career, bouts of depression and thoughts of suicide, and her experiences teaching female prisoners how to write songs This book s title misleads you into thinking it might be worth reading Even if it containedcontent relating to the title I d still find it difficult to give it much credence, as the woman comes across as a flake.If after reading this you still feel the urge to read the book, let me save you some precious time by suggesting that you just skip to the second last chapter, titled No Regrets.It sums up all that went before without having to skim over all the other crap in between


  3. Carrie Poppy Carrie Poppy says:

    The content of this book is lovely, and the author has clearly had a fascinating life, worthy of a memoir however, she clearly was not given a very skilled editor While the five major regrets that she witnessed are very telling and not always obvious Ware is gifted withinsight and compassion than pure writing prowess She writes nearly every sentence in the passive voice, sometimes rambles for a page or two, and occasionally veers into the troublingly unscientific she even devot The content of this book is lovely, and the author has clearly had a fascinating life, worthy of a memoir however, she clearly was not given a very skilled editor While the five major regrets that she witnessed are very telling and not always obvious Ware is gifted withinsight and compassion than pure writing prowess She writes nearly every sentence in the passive voice, sometimes rambles for a page or two, and occasionally veers into the troublingly unscientific she even devotes a few paragraphs to energy healing herself of an illness she declines to name Nevertheless, the book is worth reading for the content, if not the writing itself.In case you were wondering Regret 1 I wish I d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.Regret 2 I wish I hadn t worked so much.Regret 3 I wish I d had the courage to express my feelings.Regret 4 I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.Regret 5 I wish that I had let myself be happier


  4. Anna Lundberg Anna Lundberg says:

    Hmm Honestly I had to force myself to finish this book I m afraid that it s long and poorly written, all tell and no show, and very repetitive The author has clearly led a very a troubled life, from drug problems in her youth to depression and several suicide attempts or at least plans I m happy for her that she seems finally to have found her own form of peace and happiness, and in a way I think the book is a kind of therapy for her She has also had rare insight into the regrets of the d Hmm Honestly I had to force myself to finish this book I m afraid that it s long and poorly written, all tell and no show, and very repetitive The author has clearly led a very a troubled life, from drug problems in her youth to depression and several suicide attempts or at least plans I m happy for her that she seems finally to have found her own form of peace and happiness, and in a way I think the book is a kind of therapy for her She has also had rare insight into the regrets of the dying, having worked in palliative care with many dear men and women.The top five regrets of the dying are incredibly important lessons and we would all do well listening to them before it s too late 1 I wish I d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me 2 I wish I didn t work so hard 3 I wish I d had the courage to express my feelings 4 I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends 5 I wish I d let myself be happier.Read them, think about what they mean, and try to live your life to avoid such regrets But beyond that, I wouldn t recommend that you read this book


  5. Debbie Young Debbie Young says:

    I bought this book Kindle Version having read brief but rave reviews about it on Facebook and it wasn t quite what I d expected the perils of buying on Kindle rather than flicking through a printed book in a shop there was muchabout her own life than about those she had nursed but even so I found it absorbing and compelling Ware breaks the last taboo by talking so much about death, recounting her personal experiences of providing palliative care and witnessing many people s final I bought this book Kindle Version having read brief but rave reviews about it on Facebook and it wasn t quite what I d expected the perils of buying on Kindle rather than flicking through a printed book in a shop there was muchabout her own life than about those she had nursed but even so I found it absorbing and compelling Ware breaks the last taboo by talking so much about death, recounting her personal experiences of providing palliative care and witnessing many people s final moments Doing this work she is battling with her own past demons and moving towards a future in which she can embrace her own life withenthusiasm never mind death It is a deeply honest and frank account that must have been hard to write and it s good to see that eventually she is able to come to terms with her own life after being on the verge of suicide Visit her Facebook page now and you ll see that she s effectively now on maternity leave from it, and very happy to have just had her first child Things don t get muchlife affiriming than that And as for those top five regrets the reasons the I bought the book in the first place they are eloquently, convincingly and touchingly argued But I m not going to list them here buy the book yourself if you want to know what they are I expect she could do with the extra royalties to cover that maternity leave


  6. Amy Moritz Amy Moritz says:

    A very interesting book This book was recommended to me by a friend and I just jumped in without knowing muchthan the title I wasn t expecting so much memoir autobiography from the author At times it was wonderful and at times I felt as if it interrupted the story But overall an incredibly beautiful reminder and message Two regrets struck me most One was from people who wished they had the courage to be themselves, to be true to themselves This is a theme which comes around in my li A very interesting book This book was recommended to me by a friend and I just jumped in without knowing muchthan the title I wasn t expecting so much memoir autobiography from the author At times it was wonderful and at times I felt as if it interrupted the story But overall an incredibly beautiful reminder and message Two regrets struck me most One was from people who wished they had the courage to be themselves, to be true to themselves This is a theme which comes around in my life very often, and a message I need to take to heart The other was about keeping touch with friends I ve never been very good at cultivating and keeping close friendships I know that quantity is less important than quality, but I would do well to really evaluate the people who are important, who know me best and will be there in the long run, and be sure to put in the work to keep the friendship alive.At the close of the book she uses an analogy about a lightbulb and muck While I get it, I thought that went on a bit too much But the experiences she shared about her palliative clients are touching, well written and thought provoking


  7. Jo Jo says:

    Very easy to read, inspirational and challenging, makes you question whether you are living the life you want to be living.


  8. Sleepless Dreamer Sleepless Dreamer says:

    I went to my first funeral last week Now, some of you may be surprised to know as a whole, I m a pretty morbid person Being interested in philosophy and constantly being on the edge of a personality and existential crisis does that So I was curious about this book and knew I wanted to read it How do I begin I have so much to say First of all, this book felt pale That s my best adjective I see death as a natural part of life I don t think we need to be sad about it I think we need to ta I went to my first funeral last week Now, some of you may be surprised to know as a whole, I m a pretty morbid person Being interested in philosophy and constantly being on the edge of a personality and existential crisis does that So I was curious about this book and knew I wanted to read it How do I begin I have so much to say First of all, this book felt pale That s my best adjective I see death as a natural part of life I don t think we need to be sad about it I think we need to talkabout dying and not just negatively I feel like the entire world is denying this very important part of life I remember I used to say stuff like, If I ll be alive in my thirties and friends were shocked because obviously promised I m going to live until my thirties and not get run over in an hour I see negative things as a part of life I ve always gone by the line ache marvelously and how pain is part of life and I want to celebrate that as well This book lacks life That s another problem Bronnie goes on and on about her dramas with other carers and her family history and I simply didn t care Some authors can afford to write those things but Bronnie lacks that skill I swear, this book was the opposite of fierce I can t seem to gather my thoughts I see what this book is trying to say I get it Meditating is indeed great I m happy Bronnie is happy I just, I experience life so differently, I can t feel this book I started skimming at page 200 and didn t stop I thought this would beenlightening This book needs a lot of editing what I m taking with me Um, being happy and friends are important I never ever want to be that old Bronnie is an odd name


  9. Courtney Courtney says:

    This book has changed my life Bronnie Ware is an amazing woman with an incredible story to tell There s no one who wouldn t learn a lot from reading this fantastic memoir Go and buy it.


  10. Ilhem Ilhem says:

    Depression is an illness that can be the most catalytic gift for positive transformation, if one is allowed to move through it at their own pace Depression is the name given to it in modern society But it is in fact, an opportunity and enormous time for spiritual transformation and awakening It may be a breakdown But it can also be a break through, if approached with determination, the willingness to surrender, and faith Of course, this doesn t actually make it fun Overcoming the mind a Depression is an illness that can be the most catalytic gift for positive transformation, if one is allowed to move through it at their own pace Depression is the name given to it in modern society But it is in fact, an opportunity and enormous time for spiritual transformation and awakening It may be a breakdown But it can also be a break through, if approached with determination, the willingness to surrender, and faith Of course, this doesn t actually make it fun Overcoming the mind and letting go of other s expectations allows you to hear your own heart Having the courage to then follow it is where true happiness lies It is time to realise your own worth and to realise the worth of others Lay your judgments down Be kind on yourself and be kind on others As no one has ever truly walked in another s shoes, seen through another s eyes, or felt through another s heart for their whole life, no one knows just how much each other has suffered either A little bit of empathy goes a long way Many thanks to the friend who sent me this GREAT book I know it took me soooooo long to finish it simply because I was not reading daily not because I did not enjoy it, huh This is definitely one of my best reads so far And a must read to everyone of you D Grab a copy already