The sexual revolution is justly celebrated for the freedoms it brought birth control, the decriminalization of abortion, the liberalization of divorce, greater equality between the sexes, women s massive entry into the workforce, and tolerance of homosexuality But as Pascal Bruckner, one of France s leading writers, argues in this lively and provocative reflection on the contradictions of modern love, our new freedoms have also brought new burdens and rules without, however, wiping out the old rules, emotions, desires, and arrangements the couple, marriage, jealousy, the demand for fidelity, the war between constancy and inconstancy It is no wonder that love, sex, and relationships today are so confusing, so difficult, and so paradoxical Drawing on history, politics, psychology, literature, pop culture, and current events, this book a best seller in France exposes and dissects these paradoxes With his customary brilliance and wit, Bruckner traces the roots of sexual liberation back to the Enlightenment in order to explain love s supreme paradox, epitomized by the s oxymoron of free love the tension between freedom, which separates, and love, which attaches Ashamed that our sex lives fail to live up to such liberated ideals, we have traded neuroses of repression for neuroses of inadequacy, and we overcompensate Our parents lied about their morality, Bruckner writes, but we lie about our immorality Mixing irony and optimism, Bruckner argues that, when it comes to love, we should side neither with the revolutionaries nor the reactionaries Rather, taking love and ourselves as we are, we should realize that love makes no progress and that its messiness, surprises, and paradoxes are not merely the sources of its pain but also of its pleasure and glory


10 thoughts on “The Paradox of Love

  1. Gabriela Gabriela says:

    Idei adevarate dar care dor Lumea de azi in transformare este infioratoare prin vocea lui Bruckner.


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  4. Shawn Shawn says:

    Written in the French tradition of philosophy cum short essays and thought experiments The influence of Montaigne, Pascal and La Rouchefoucault is strongly visible The chapters are assembled like thematic variations on the central notion that the experience of love is inherently contradictory Though by the end Bruckner seems to endorse a mostly cynical view, that romantic love inevitably turns into bored companionship monogamy becomes self flagellation only ameaningful sexual revoluti Written in the French tradition of philosophy cum short essays and thought experiments The influence of Montaigne, Pascal and La Rouchefoucault is strongly visible The chapters are assembled like thematic variations on the central notion that the experience of love is inherently contradictory Though by the end Bruckner seems to endorse a mostly cynical view, that romantic love inevitably turns into bored companionship monogamy becomes self flagellation only ameaningful sexual revolution will cure the ideological diseases of the West.In terms of the philosophical contribution of this text, Bruckner is about 15 20 years behind the American philosopher Alan Soble I m not sure he says anything new for the philosophy of love and sex Bruckner s book issuccessful in creating a literary work whose iterative structure mirrors the dialectic of love


  5. Hyperliteratura Hyperliteratura says:

    Paradoxul iubirii este un eseu analiz , situat la grani a dintre psihologie, sociologie i istoria ideilor, despre condi ia actual a uneia dintre cele mai contrariate crea ii ale min ii umane iubirea De la idealiz rile romanticilor la eliberarea sexual a anilor 60, de la condamnarea pasiunii n epoca clasic la revolu ia intimit ii i la utopia m ntuirii prin orgasm Wilhelm Reich , la reactualizarea ideilor marchizului de Sade, iubirea a fost n continuu inventat i reinventat.Cite t Paradoxul iubirii este un eseu analiz , situat la grani a dintre psihologie, sociologie i istoria ideilor, despre condi ia actual a uneia dintre cele mai contrariate crea ii ale min ii umane iubirea De la idealiz rile romanticilor la eliberarea sexual a anilor 60, de la condamnarea pasiunii n epoca clasic la revolu ia intimit ii i la utopia m ntuirii prin orgasm Wilhelm Reich , la reactualizarea ideilor marchizului de Sade, iubirea a fost n continuu inventat i reinventat.Cite te continuarea pe Hyperliteratura


  6. Ciprian Rusen Ciprian Rusen says:

    A good collection of essays that describe very well the paradox of love in the modern society While this book makes a good radiography of modern relationships, sex, love and how they are intertwined with religion and the rules of society, it doesn t do much in terms of providing new ideas, new approaches that could help us get past our problems This book is somewhat ironic in this regard it shares all our problems but it doesn t share any solutions, just because nobody knows them, including t A good collection of essays that describe very well the paradox of love in the modern society While this book makes a good radiography of modern relationships, sex, love and how they are intertwined with religion and the rules of society, it doesn t do much in terms of providing new ideas, new approaches that could help us get past our problems This book is somewhat ironic in this regard it shares all our problems but it doesn t share any solutions, just because nobody knows them, including the author All in all, this a very good and often insightful read


  7. Mercurio Cadena Mercurio Cadena says:

    The analysis given by the author reveals some of the most common love concerns nowadays It is a must for those interested in expanding the comprehension of successful human interaction The format is not strict it seems to be a bunch of ideas put together with little sense of coherence But such coherence is not necessary it is like one of those great coffee chats about love issues that, once concluded, bring peace to the participants.


  8. George Georgescu George Georgescu says:

    Te iubesc formula t rf prin excelen , ceea ce nu nseamn c e fals , ci doar c e indecidabil E secretul cel mai arz tor, e refrenul cel mai rostit Nu afl m nimic de la cel pe care l ador m, n afar de ceea ce este esen ial c nc ne mai iube te Este singura tiin pe care el i o poate d rui i care reprezint alegerea dintre via i moarte n acest sens, orice fiin iubit este fatal prin natura ei ea i nicio alta, nu vor fi multe, numai ea va avea, p n la ultima noastra su Te iubesc formula t rf prin excelen , ceea ce nu nseamn c e fals , ci doar c e indecidabil E secretul cel mai arz tor, e refrenul cel mai rostit Nu afl m nimic de la cel pe care l ador m, n afar de ceea ce este esen ial c nc ne mai iube te Este singura tiin pe care el i o poate d rui i care reprezint alegerea dintre via i moarte n acest sens, orice fiin iubit este fatal prin natura ei ea i nicio alta, nu vor fi multe, numai ea va avea, p n la ultima noastra suflare, figura destinului nostru, chiar dac ne a p rasit


  9. Catherine Catherine says:

    Une r flexion tr s int ressante sur les id es re ues propos de l amour Bonnes mises en contexte historiques et philosophiques Je n tais pas d accord avec la fa on d aborder certains enjeux, notamment l hypersexualisation des femmes ou les identit s homosexuelles Certaines id es ont peut tre moins bien vieilli Mais dans l ensemble, le livre aide se d complexer et relativiser nos attentes


  10. Cristian Cristian says:

    A collection of essays relating the long debated concept of love and its implications.Pascal Bruckner tries to put together everything that the word love can make you think about, from marriage to polygamy, from a paternal society to an equality of sexes throughout the human history, religion, intimacy, homosexuals, affairs and so on.Of course this is just Pascal s own view on love so he tried to be impartial and not to jump straight to any conclusion rather make you decide for your own.At times A collection of essays relating the long debated concept of love and its implications.Pascal Bruckner tries to put together everything that the word love can make you think about, from marriage to polygamy, from a paternal society to an equality of sexes throughout the human history, religion, intimacy, homosexuals, affairs and so on.Of course this is just Pascal s own view on love so he tried to be impartial and not to jump straight to any conclusion rather make you decide for your own.At times I felt a bit confused to the order of the various subjects presented, the essays are not very well integrated and it feels like jumping from one idea to another Also the overly quoted french authors points out the subjectivity of this material, of course this is the author s own knowledge