I really enjoyed this book It gave me quite a few tips and tricks to apply in my daily life to think and play bigger It helped me understand the value of my inner critic and gave me a different perspective of towards it This books is definitely going into my To Be re Read shelf. So I m just getting into the message of this book and it challenges me to think differently At 58 years old that may be difficult because some things are so ingrained, but I will give it a try because I really want to be able to dothan what I am.Thanks for a change of perspective. Tara Mohr is on a mission to help women speak up and influence the world for the better She says her lifelong calling is to recognize where women s voices are missing and do what I can, in my corner of the world, to help bring them in As a child, Mohr advocated for an English curriculum that featuredwomen authors and female protagonists Today, she s running a global leadership program and sharing its central tenets with a wider audience through her book, Playing Big Heartening and pr Tara Mohr is on a mission to help women speak up and influence the world for the better She says her lifelong calling is to recognize where women s voices are missing and do what I can, in my corner of the world, to help bring them in As a child, Mohr advocated for an English curriculum that featuredwomen authors and female protagonists Today, she s running a global leadership program and sharing its central tenets with a wider audience through her book, Playing Big Heartening and pragmatic, the book reads as if Mohr is giving an extended pep talk to an imagined reader who has great promise but craves support You are that talented woman who doesn t see how talented she is, Mohr declares in the opening pages You are that fabulous, we wish she was speaking upwoman The message is a variant of the encouragement she s given to thousands of women through her coaching practice The book is a distillation of the best material generated in that laboratory those exercises and advice that women found to be most helpful in creating the lives and careers they sought.Mohr s Inner Critic 101 Training and toolkit of 15 ways to quiet fears are worth the cover price alone Collectively, the many lists, steps and journal prompts fill the void left by other manifestos that tell women what to do without explaining the mechanics of how to do it For every grand declaration One of the most important mental shifts a woman can make to support her playing big is to start thinking of criticism as part and parcel of doing important work , Mohr offers multiple tips and tools to make it concrete.What the book lacks, though, is much of the fire and heart that makes manifestos persuasive and memorable You ve got to bring your own motivation to this text because it lacks the spunk of Lisa Bloom calling out women for letting celebrity culture distract us from social ills, or the sharpness of Anne Marie Slaughter listing the 1,001 ways women are thwarted in efforts to advance Mohr s tone is decidedly pleasant not accusatory , in keeping with her stated belief that tender friendship ispotent than criticism While I appreciate how her writing reflects her gentle ethos, I must admit that saltier approaches make for livelier reading.In fairness, the subtitle is practical wisdom for women who want to speak up, create, and lead It wasn t designed to awaken latent aspirations It s for the woman who already wants to lean in and doesn t know how.That s not to say the book is just for corporate climbers The text s frequent references to women of diverse ages, professions, circumstances and aspirations suggests that the advice is widely applicable and effective Mohr references women from many walks of life who have practiced Playing Big For example, there s a Silicon Valley sales director who wants to launch a new line of business, a researcher emboldened to approach a rival lab about collaborating, a social worker who wants to transition into advocacy, and a literacy specialist who wants to open a camp The women could not bedifferent, but they all benefitted from Mohr s core set of tools for quieting criticism, communicating powerfully and taking productive action.Mohr s focus on inner work, versus the details of salary negotiations or other tactics with narrow applications, assures the book s appeal to a wide range of women And unlike many women s empowerment books, these practices are not meant to be deployed in a grab forpower and prestige Mohr s stated goal is to help women move past self doubt to create whatever s meaningful for them It could be launching a business or winning a promotion, but it could also be leading a community initiative or writing an op ed for the paper As Mohr puts it This is the very heart of playing bigger having the vision of aauthentic, fully expressed, free from fear you and growingandinto her, being pulled by this resonant vision rather than pushing to achieve external markers of success One of the most compelling portions of the book describes a conversation she had with her childhood dance instructor, who told her that American women were liberated but not empowered, because they lacked imagination Mohr understood that to mean that women weren t fully claiming their freedoms because they lacked a specific, vibrant, compelling vision for doing so In short, they were stuck recreating the status quo of playing small because it was modeled all around them and they hadn t cultivated the inner capacity to create new, better alternatives This is a compelling idea that bridges the personal and social dimensions of Playing Big Whenwomen do it,will see it and do it too.At several points in the book, Mohr tries to raise the stakes of women playing big beyond the realm of individual happiness to evoke global import In the minds of women around the globe lie the seeds of the solutions to climate change, poverty, violence, corporate corruption She writes that women who speak up are naturally change agents and revolutionaries because today s public, professional and political lives are not yet reflective of women s voices or women s ways of thinking, doing and working This is too much of a leap for me Sarah Palin speaks up, but what she says is ignorant and divisive The content and intent of speech mattersthan the mere fact of it The elevation of women s voices is necessary but not sufficient for positive social change.Although Mohr s rallying cry fell flat for me, the book s practical advice remains valuable It succeeds in equipping ambitious women, if not rousing them This is one of the most important books I ve read I put its influence on my life next to the work of Brene Brown, Christiane Northrup, and Carol Dweck These women have opened my eyes to parts of my life I had been ignoring Tara Mohr did the same in relation to me finding my voice and the strength to listen to it Every woman who has ever struggled with living the life they want needs to read this book I m grateful that at 37 I am starting to understand what it means to play big thanks to Tar This is one of the most important books I ve read I put its influence on my life next to the work of Brene Brown, Christiane Northrup, and Carol Dweck These women have opened my eyes to parts of my life I had been ignoring Tara Mohr did the same in relation to me finding my voice and the strength to listen to it Every woman who has ever struggled with living the life they want needs to read this book I m grateful that at 37 I am starting to understand what it means to play big thanks to Tara s life work Overall, I really enjoyed this book Is it a vastly different self help book than others on similar topics Probably not, but there are several nuggets in this book that have stuck with me since I first read it a few months ago There were a couple parts I skimmed over and basically read the highlights at the end of the chapter and feel I got the jist, but the majority were insightful and relevant In a nutshell, this book is for women who have great ideas, are smart and insightful, and could re Overall, I really enjoyed this book Is it a vastly different self help book than others on similar topics Probably not, but there are several nuggets in this book that have stuck with me since I first read it a few months ago There were a couple parts I skimmed over and basically read the highlights at the end of the chapter and feel I got the jist, but the majority were insightful and relevant In a nutshell, this book is for women who have great ideas, are smart and insightful, and could really make on impact in their community or in a business their own or someone else s , but for some reason or another, just don t speak up or follow through, or are held back by a myriad of reasons, many of which she addresses fear of criticism, fear of challenge, fear of life changes, own inner critic, etc.I liked both her writing style and the straightforward organization of the book clear, concise and to the point Tara does not come across as bossy or arrogant, just a woman who found her gift, is aware of that in a humble yet competent way, and strives to help you find ACT ON your own gifts Like a knowledgeable friend coach you are having coffee with who holds you accountable And she offers quite a few useful tools to help you further in your action steps to playing bigger.A few nuggets Playing big happens when we listen to our inner mentor She takes you through a visual on how to access her now and consistently to help guide you through your life and challenges Rather than seeking external mentors as many women do, Tara stresses that every woman needs to able to access this inner mentor, and use her as a guide, not a destination I think she goes farther than the standard advice of not listening to your inner critic, and for whatever reason, seeing myself as a 65 year old, wise, warm woman in a pretty strong visual sense has been very useful to me since I read it Women who play big have one big differentiator they leap Leaping is not necessarily a bold or big action ie., writing a book or taking 6 months to design a fancy website , it is the small, connective steps that help you reach a goal writing one small blog post today, or set up a free website in 15 minutes In other words, sometimes women get stuck in planning out all the details before taking any action, but Mohr instead suggests acting on small steps that help propel actions and goals into motion The chapter I skimmed over was the one on fears, and the new old way of looking that them where she discusses pachad and yirah Hebrew Bible terms fears and understanding which one may be holding you back She outlines several scenarios at the end of the chapter that provide illustrations on both and I felt this summed up the chapter well, and understanding which fear s might be holding us back The chapter on how women dumb down their speech in emails and person was useful too, because I always used the words just and actually and she shows how ineffective these words are when she contrasts them with much stronger communication This chapter also addresses that women who can manage to balance competence and warmth are typically seen assuccessful and effective than women who are not regarded as warm, even if they are highly competent Overall, I do recommend this book and find enough in it to be worthwhile and useful An addendum Tara ends the book with a chapter on how she is balancing new motherhood with following your calling and playing big because of course, no matter what you expect will await you on the other side of having a child, it simply changes you and changes how you interact with your career and passions She wrote the book when she was pregnant As a mom and business owner, I seek a tribe of supportive women who understand the balancing act, the ever evolving journey and seasons of change and how we embrace that in our lives, while still managing to achieve personal ambitions, if we choose to What changes most after a child is the ego, and Tara addressed that in her New Years update My friend Lianne Raymond sees the chapters of our lives in terms of metaphors of organic growth times for planting seeds, times for putting down roots, times for branching out and bearing fruit I sense that the past decade or so for me was one of branching out and bearing fruit And now is root time Rooting down I feel soft, heavy, humble.I do not anticipate that my work will become less important to me But it has already become less important to my ego Hunger for accolades and achievement seems to be slipping away The interest in what s already here is greater, for me, than it s ever been And the call to becourageous in my work is strong Didn t think I would enjoy this but it was fab Now to do the exercises A groundbreaking women s leadership expert and popular conference speaker gives women the practical skills to voice and implement the changes they want to see in themselves and in the world In her coaching and programs for women, Tara Mohr saw how women were playing small in their lives and careers, were frustrated by it, and wanted to play bigger She has devised a proven way for them to achieve their dreams by playing big from the inside out Mohr s work helping women play bigger has earned acclaim from the likes of Maria Shriver and Jillian Michaels, and has been featured on the Today show,CNN, and a host of other media outlets Sheryl Sandberg s Lean In gave many women new awareness about what kinds of changes they need to make to become successful yet most women need help implementing them In the tradition of Bren Brown s Daring Greatly, Playing Big provides real, practical tools to help women quiet self doubt, identify their callings, unhook from praise and criticism, unlearn counterproductive good girl habits, and begin taking bold action While not all women aspire to end up in the corner office, every woman aspires to something Playing Big fills a major gap among women s career books it isn t just for corporate women The book offers tools to help every woman play bigger whether she s an executive, community volunteer, artist, or stay at home mom Thousands of women across the country have been transformed by Mohr s program, and now this book makes the ideas and practices available to everyone who is ready to play big I was a bit suspicious of this book it came highly recommended by someone I respect, but still I ve seen SO MANY books about What Holds Women Back And What To Do About It that I worried there d be nothing new to say TBH, there is quite a lot of stuff we ve all heard before here But hey, that s because so much of it is true and important I don t mind being reminded of stuff that s true and important And a few of the stories did feel a bit staged But there was also some stuff that felt fre I was a bit suspicious of this book it came highly recommended by someone I respect, but still I ve seen SO MANY books about What Holds Women Back And What To Do About It that I worried there d be nothing new to say TBH, there is quite a lot of stuff we ve all heard before here But hey, that s because so much of it is true and important I don t mind being reminded of stuff that s true and important And a few of the stories did feel a bit staged But there was also some stuff that felt fresh and also true and important I found the chapter on why girls winning at education fails to translate into women winning at work particularly powerfulWhat if girls are doing so well in school because school requires many of the same abilities and behaviors as being a good girl respect for and obedience to authority, careful rule following, people pleasing, and succeeding in an externally imposed framework And what if because of the nature of school the skills we develop there but also the abilities we lose all that academic training translates into their success at midlevels in organizations, but it will not translate to their increased numbers as senior leaders, change makers, and innovators That rings true to me, but I d never articulated it like that before The no BS, practical tips on communication are brilliant too I catch myself hedging all the time, and now I better understand why, and what impact it has, and how to stop doing it.I also took the time to do some of the exercises, and was genuinely moved by the meeting with my inner mentor, the older, wiser me It s not a particularly original concept, I know, but that doesn t make it any less powerful or helpful In summary, definitely worth a read if you re a woman with a sense that you re holding yourself back, but also if you re a man managing women it might help youaware of what s really going on when they ask a question in a meeting instead of putting forward an idea, or don t go for promotion when you thought they might Fantastic. Amazing book One of the best I have read in awhile.